We have had a turbulent few weeks, for once not dog related as my father has died following a short but acute illness. The dogs have been the most amazing therapy giving me a time to think as I have walked them in the inspirational terrain of the breathtaking South Hams. As I knew my energy was not good I have elected to get my partner to do the bulk of walking Sonny as I did not want to give him any reason to revert to his former behaviours of lunging etc. Fortunately he has held it together.
It reminded me of the importance of animals in offering solace and comfort at difficult times, however this unfortunately turns us into weak owners and is the one time it is more likely that our dogs will take over as leader of the pack. It is very tempting to fall for a cute puppy when we are going through a bad time or, have just lost our faithful long term pal. But really important that we pause and allow ourselves time to grieve and get over the loss, otherwise it will be grief that makes the decision for us, rather than our sensible brain.
Many times Cesar has dealt with grieving owners who are in this situation and tried to find a 'replacement' for the lost dog, often they are disappointed when the new dog is not behaving in the familiar way or, shows throught it's behaviou,r that it cannot be managed with the same regime. This is when the problems start.
I am totally devoted to both my dogs but although as characters they are irreplaceable I would never feel unable to give another dog the same level of love and attention. After all, if our dog has lived a long and happy life and eventually died after 14 years, we have proved ourselves to be a good dog owner, capable of the love and commitment needed. There are so many unwanted dogs out there, desperate for new homes, let's give them a chance too when the sadness has faded enough for us to be a good pack leader for them too!!
